Journey to nowhere - the sixth installment "My friend, many see in our relationship as ambiguous."
"And it is, because of our different roles, I would say the opposite. You suggest, you go on a tangent, always try an escape. And I make you think and, sometimes, affect your decisions. Wisely, I think. "
" Sull'escatologia I saw a little 'weak'.
"I also have limits, you know? At the bottom you and I are one. But we are not able to understand everything. Even if we try, especially here in anything. "
" I want to change the subject, since the ontology has only partially solved my dilemma.
The relationship of self with others. This time more bother psychology and sociology than philosophy or science in general. "
" Do not get too many illusions. The ontology lies ...
would start from the fact that most of the problems in relations with other results from a defect of communication. "
" I agree. But you must recognize that it is not easy to set up in an objective manner the relationship with each other. Too many variables affect negatively. We're talking about a value system that can safely be called chaotic. "
" Something you can govern more or less. There are laws, rules. Do not always work, but they are a good cloth with which to work. We say that the statement applies to interpersonal relationships has the same complexity of meteorology. "
" A chaotic system, then.
Personally I can not always apply to the dictates of etiquette
in relationships with others. Perhaps for the my nature "spin". Explain better why some people are nasty and more fun. I'm not always the same? "
" If I were only
you decide to human behavior, we would be extinct a long time.
I'll give you shocking news: There are people likes or dislikes. These are the perceptions of others who deceive us. "
" This is moral, "
" Not at all. Not if you're referring to the religious meaning of the term. Perhaps the philosophical concept of morality, ethics has to do something short.
But I was referring to the classical theory of communication. "
" That you did not expect. "
"My role as a" wise friends "compels me to bring you the right way, remember?"
In these moments I think I see you stroking his hair, eyes widening taking a cat form. I can not give you that right.
"Let me see where I'm wrong."
"During the transmission of a message between a sender and a receiver, is an encoding and decoding, a sort of package that envelops the message. And while this may be problematic. The decoding may be non-compliant coding, distorting the meaning of the message. Not to mention the interference, the most powerful, in fact, prejudice. "
"We are all ready to lash out against prejudice. Yet it comes from the need of pure necessity. Not being able to know everything thoroughly and immediately, ie without depth, the mind deals with a lot of knowledge through reviews "prefabricated" just to contain the maximum number of generic information. Not exactly conclusive, but necessary for survival. A dangerous sort of compromise to pull forward into the jungle of life. "
" Excellent analysis of the injury.
Nevertheless, the error of perception is the cause of many problems between people.
need to work on themselves. We should not define the other "nice" or "unpleasant."
is limited. And wrong. "
" It is not easy to deal with others effectively.
And then what about the analysis of all causes ...?»
"I think there is a shortcut, or at least one trick.
Just assume that every behavior as wrong, has its own reason. "
" So you forgive any wrong to anyone? "
" It is not necessary. However, it is necessary to understand the situation, the context in which an adverse opinion.
interference, the error in interpretation and lack of awareness of the context in which this arises are the three things that create the most problems with the other. "
" I really like the tripartite division of the concepts ...
Rather, explain better awareness, is the only point of which escapes me the value in relationships with others. "
«"... In
correct relations with others", you mean.
I'll make an example.
A friend of mine called you "very unpleasant", euphemistically refer to his opinion of you that told me some time ago. "
" After what we said, has a wrong perception of me, I deduce. "
" At the time. This is only half the story. Indeed one of the medals. You're making
a conceptual mistake, too. "
" But if I'm the victim of such appreciation, what mistakes I made? What I've done to make me feel bad? "
" It may be, but it would be a marginal.
error in not understanding the context in which this trial is completed.
The error of my friend, as such, should be analyzed separately and on different parameters, since you obviously know the context in which it was born that ugly word. "
" So I understand the context and forget for a moment what should be its alleged error. And pray, what good would I draw? "
" If you knew the truth motivo, o almeno quello che credo che sia, vedresti quella che definirei la sua mancanza di stima nei tuoi confronti sotto un'altra luce.
Senza scendere troppo nei dettagli, lei ha subìto un trauma causatole da un uomo. Immagina qualcosa di veramente scioccante Non so, un abbandono, una cocente delusione. O qualcosa di peggio.»
«Che cosa c'entro io in tutto questo? Come colleghi l'antipatia a me?»
«Tu c'entri poco. Rappresenti un simbolo per lei, quell'uomo che l'ha delusa. Ricollega lui a te, forse solo per un piccolo atteggiamento, la statura, gli occhi, una frase...»
«Ricapitoliamo.
Se ho capito bene, tutto è nato durante uno dei nostri incontri. One of my sentence, whatever, the man unconsciously recalled that in the past has made her suffer. Perhaps even she could explain for sure how, but suddenly called me "obnoxious", as if an automatic mechanism had filtered into his mind to the perception that value.
And I, thinking of all this, I feel a little 'less offended by this fact. Moreover, knowing that this is an error of perception is reinforced by a lady of a certain gravity context, my conscience should be more than fine. Indeed, it should also become friendly because of my empathy for him. "
" You fully understand the question.
You agree that things change a lot when viewed under this new light. "
This life companion has a terrible defect, it is always on the side of ... reason.
